Right or Responsibility?

Just a thought on the hot debate over women’s rights.  I am all for them, specifically the unborn female children in the wombs of the women that have participated in the act of creation.

When does our right remove our responsibility from the equation?  Why does the unborn woman not have the right to live? She didn’t ask to be created in your womb, but she has been and deserves to have her rights championed by those with voices.

I understand the pressures that society brings to bear on women these days, and that we all make mistakes, but is a child truly the mistake?  All three of my children were unplanned.  After my first child, who has moderate to severe Cerebral Palsy, Trisha and I decided to stick with her; and not to spread our attention and finances out over other children.

It all comes down to what value has a life? When is it okay to take it?  Is it ever okay to take it? If you go by life begins at a detectable heartbeat, then that would be as early as 5 weeks. Abortion after 5 weeks stops a beating heart.  Of course there is God’s point of view as well…

Jeremiah 1:5 (NKJV)

5Before I formed you in the womb I knew you;

Before you were born I sanctified you…

As far as what quality of life will that child have if brought into the world without married parents, a certain amount of wealth etc… I am reminded of the amazing good that Kierstin has brought into this world.  However if you listen to the extreme proponents of abortion rights you find the following… In the book Practical Ethics, author Peter Singer argues the case for selective infanticide. “At present parents can choose to keep or destroy their disabled offspring only if the disability happens to be detected during pregnancy. There is no logical basis for restricting parents’ choice to these particular disabilities. If disabled newborn infants were not regarded as having a right to life until, say, a week or a month after birth it would allow parents, in consultation with their doctors, to choose on the basis of far greater knowledge of the infant’s condition than is possible before birth.”  What kind of quality of life does Kierstin have? Well, her life is so much more than what she gets out of it, she has given more than the world could ever give back.   As far as my personal situation, God had other plans and 10 years later Chloe was conceived.  She was a puzzle piece that we hadn’t even realized that we were missing.  Then about 5 years later came Nate the Great the son of my old age.  Wouldn’t trade these ‘mistakes’ for the world.  The mistake in unwanted pregnancies is not the creation of the innocent child in the womb, it was the mistake of the act of creating them.  When this occurs, responsibility trumps ‘rights’.

In my discussion with a young lady that was concerned about her rights she pointed out that when you find yourself alone in this predicament (of an unwanted or unexpected pregnancy),  things that used to be black and white become grey and that no one else should be able to make this decision for her.  Unfortunately, there is more than one person in the predicament, there are three. In particular, there is one without a voice… The unborn. The laws of the land ought to protect the weakest among us. The real question is who’s body has more rights? The woman that chose to participate in the act to create life has more responsibility than right. The child, innocent in the womb ought to have the right to live.  

This same young lady agreed that abortion should not be used as a contraceptive and yet chose to argue through the merit of simply making a mistake and having an accident.  What is that if not contraception?  Check out these stats…


  • On average, women give at least 3 reasons for choosing abortion: 3/4 say that having a baby would interfere with work, school or other responsibilities; about 3/4 say they cannot afford a child; and 1/2 say they do not want to be a single parent or are having problems with their husband or partner (AGI).
  • Only 12% of women included a physical problem with their health among reasons for having an abortion (NAF).
  • One per cent (of aborting women) reported that they were the survivors of rape (NAF).

Having now known a number of women that have been the willing victims of abortion,  I have so much more compassion than ever before. The Lord has a pardon waiting for every sin, every mistake a human being could possibly make.  Whether she was told, it’s just a glob of tissue or whether she went into the abortion willingly knowing that glob of tissue was a living soul, Jesus death, burial and resurrection can secure forgiveness and deliverance for anyone willing to come.  Our problem in regards to any sin, be it abortion or divorce or drinking or homosexuality is that many of us refuse to look at it for what it is and  therefore can never really be free from the condemnation of what we have done.  My dear friends, accept responsibility for what you have done, come to Jesus and live!

As a disclaimer, I will concede abortion for rape, and incest, as these women weren’t willing participants in the creation of the life within their wombs, but I do applaud and I am humbled by the women that carry the child to term .  I must also concede those rare occasions where the life of the mother is at clear and present risk.  This position is one held by perhaps the majority of the nation, it isn’t extreme in the least and yet, it is being painted as such.  I really hope that perhaps the Lord would use this post to encourage those that have been through the horror of abortion, and for those that haven’t perhaps you will think twice.  Then  there is the time coming in a few short weeks where all must vote our conscience.  I vote life.  I hope that you will too.  Vote women’s rights if you must, but at least consider all of the UNBORN women’s rights that have no voice and maybe, just maybe be their voice.

God bless.


Stop Fooling Yourself

James 3:13–18 (NKJV)

“Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, DO NOT BOAST AND LIE AGAINST THE TRUTH. This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceablegentle,willing to yieldfull of mercy and good fruitswithout partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.”

This is a tough passage to swallow isn’t it?  This is a passage of Scripture that begs us to examine ourselves and see if we are following demonic influences or Godly influences.  So many of us have lied to ourselves and to others about our spirituality.  We profess that we are good or we excuse our behaivor or maybe even give lipservice to how bad we are, but in our hearts we are so very wrong and refuse to accept how wrong we have been.

I have listened to brutal men excuse their wicked behaivor all the while fooling themselves into thinking that they are spiritual by saying they “KNOW IT’S WRONG”.  However their excuses give away the lie.  This is lipservice to the truth.  Wrong is wrong.  In this passage the Lord calls to the bench the witness of works to help the believer realize that he is not walking in the Holy Spirit but the unholy spirit.   These men use their wife’s behaivor to excuse their own.  Instead of taking leadership of their homes, they resort to being bullies and frightening their families into submission.  Some scream and yell, some hit and hurt but all decieve themselves when they blame others.  They LIE AGAINST THE TRUTH and even use it to abuse their families by saying if my wife were more like Sarah in the Bible, if my kids would just behave I wouldn’t have to scream and yell all the time, or they excuse themselves by claiming to be just so tired and weary that no one could do better in my circumstances.  All of this is bull.  It is self-pitying and self-serving and full of bitterness.  “I’m not that bad” is another shade of the lies we tell ourselves.

The Bible teaches us a better way.  The Bible holds up Jesus and says look! Here is a perfect man!  Here is a man that walked in the Spirit and endured for your sake more than you will ever have to!  Look!  Here is a better way!  But my friends, we need to face ourselves squarly in the mirror of the Word and apply it.


A picture of a lady sits in my mind.  She is a faithful mother of three.  She has become over the years, a fixture in this church.  She loves her husband and puts Christ first, allowing him to follow Christ in such a way that her life, her children’s lives and the lives of many others are greatly affected for Christ.  She may not have seen herself in this place many years ago, yet here she is.  She spends many hours alone with her children because of her husband’s vocation but hardly ever complains.  She understands that the portion of life we live here is fleeting and its purpose is to love and serve God.  At times her life seems to spin out of control but then she rests upon her Savior, who saved not only her soul but her life here as well.  When great trials come her way, as the rocky coast being relentlessly crashed upon by the ocean she isn’t moved.  Rather she is changed, smoothed out and fitted for her master’s use.  The greater the trial, the greater her faith.  She cares for others and is so giving that she shames me in my selfishness, I have learned so much from this woman.  She is not perfect but with each passing year she draws closer.  Her Bible on her nightstand is well read and though many wouldn’t call her a scholar, I would call her real.  She tries to live what she reads and hears preached without false pretenses.  She cares for others and dispenses frank and godly words that seem to be a breeze of fresh air.  She is not a teacher in the strictest sense of the word but she teaches with tact and clarity few posses.  When she loves she does it freely.  She doesn’t try to fit into the mold of what people expect her to be she just is.  She understands her responsibility but lives to please God first.  She isn’t dragged down with others thoughts of her no matter what their station in life; I have never known her to be intimidated.  Self-doubt rarely expresses itself in her eyes, I believe she could stand in the presence of queens or paupers and not feel out of place.  She has a common sense that is given by God and good upbringing in this church, though she wasn’t here until she was 13.  When roused to anger or action concerning her family, she is a mother bear protecting her cubs.  She is everything a Christian woman should be, she is my helper, my friend my lady…

She is my wife, and I not only love her I admire her.


As Christian men today, I think that we can have a fatal flaw.  That flaw is the refusal to ask for help.  Why wait so long before we either turn to God, or a brother?  The easy and most obvious answer is pride.  We shouldn’t need it, we should be better, stronger, further along in our Christian walk.  Or we just miss the warning signs.  My admonishment today is that we need to both be humble and aware.  As men we are responsible for our homes.  We are to provide for and protect our families.  When you look in the Bible you see so many great examples of men seeking help.  David is arguably one of the manliest men in the Bible.  He was an outdoorsman, a warrior, you name it he had it.  Yet even David understood (most of the time) his need for help.  He also knew where to find it… My help comes from the Lord, maker of heaven and earth.  One of the wonderful things about David, was his close relationship to the Lord.  He knew who to run to, he knew who won his battles.

Another thing I have noticed is that when we are failing, we tend to withdraw from one another.  We don’t want to be around people, we don’t want to risk our reputations, we run from help instead of to help.  The devils device of divide and conquer is in full operation.  Our families suffer, our church suffers, our witness suffers and our fellowship with God suffers, and we suffer. David’s greatest failure came when he separated himself from his savior.  Read the Psalms written after his fall with Bathsheba… he expresses the anguish of being away from the grace of the Lord. Then he expresses the joy of returning to the throne of Grace too obtain help in time of need… He teaches us that the sacrifices acceptable to the Lord are a broken spirit and contrite heart.

Guys, we need to turn to the Lord, we need to support each other like David’s mighty men… Let’s give our hearts and minds and strength to the Lord and receive His in return.

Vote Your Faith

The election season is in full force.    To be honest, I have no zeal for any candidate currently in the race.  That being said, we should still vote according to the character and qualifications of the candidate.  We ought to consider the term pro-life to be a litmus test for those that we support.  May God guide as we choose our next president, the economy isn’t everything; as a matter of fact, a poor economy may often conceal and embolden the enemies of morality and godliness.

The video below shows heartily what I have proposed above.  It is not for the weak of heart nor is it for elementary children (Jr. High would be fine in my estimation).  However, it is a must see video for it illustrates in the medium that the current generations identify with.

Another helpful link to guide you in your voting is http://voteyourfaith.org/